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Post by **I.M. Weasel** » Mon Feb 07, 2005 12:17 pm

The weasel is sad. he is addicted to internet pron. The weasels gf who he has been into for 5 years and has been dating the past year, hates the pron. The weasel has been told not to look at it. If the weasels gf found out that he has, a breakup and heart pain would occur. The weasel doesnt anymore, but does slip sometimes. Help the weasel by giving your opinion.

NightStalker · Post by **NightStalker** » Mon Feb 07, 2005 12:24 pm

go to church

Post by **I.M. Weasel** » Mon Feb 07, 2005 12:30 pm

Oh yeah, i love her very much too.

We are both aetheists(sp), so she would probably dump me for that too.

NightStalker · Post by **NightStalker** » Mon Feb 07, 2005 12:51 pm

well just beat off ot some porn,and just lie about it!

Post by **Roofus** » Mon Feb 07, 2005 12:56 pm

Usually when people are getting some, they lose interest in porn.

Post by **I.M. Weasel** » Mon Feb 07, 2005 1:47 pm

well im getting some, but not all. shes a v and im not.

Post by **Roofus** » Mon Feb 07, 2005 1:50 pm

I.M. Weasel wrote:well im getting some, but not all. shes a v and im not.

Then you should hide your porn better

Nick · Post by **Nick** » Mon Feb 07, 2005 2:56 pm

Does she hate magazine and DVD pron too?

skar · Post by **skar** » Mon Feb 07, 2005 3:03 pm

well, just to have mentioned it... how bout talking to her and explaining it? please mark this as a stupid suggestion that needs to be ignored.

Post by **I.M. Weasel** » Mon Feb 07, 2005 3:15 pm

skar wrote:well, just to have mentioned it... how bout talking to her and explaining it? please mark this as a stupid suggestion that needs to be ignored.

Ive done that 2x before, I cant do it again. she says i need a psychologist.

Zealous zerotype · Post by **Zealous zerotype** » Mon Feb 07, 2005 3:43 pm

Heres is what you do. Get an external HDD. You store all your porn on that (get frineds to put it on and keep adding some) so you just dont get cought BINGO.

Post by **I.M. Weasel** » Mon Feb 07, 2005 4:00 pm

Could a mod move this to OT? thnx

Post by **Roofus** » Mon Feb 07, 2005 4:10 pm

MulletMan13 · Post by **MulletMan13** » Mon Feb 07, 2005 4:15 pm

.... just put the files in a password protected folder? If it's your computer, you should be able to control it. Or make a script or something that will rename all your vids/pics to something like 'system1.jpg' or something..... my favorite NOTporn.jpg....

Whats so hard about this?

Post by **Roofus** » Mon Feb 07, 2005 4:21 pm

Most women are "annoyed" by porn, but in my experience, the ones who are dead-set against it usually have other issues. You said she's a virgin. I'd bet money that's not a coincidence.

arrowhead · Post by **arrowhead** » Mon Feb 07, 2005 4:55 pm

Roofus wrote:Usually when people are getting some, they lose interest in porn.

I dont mean to flame but usually people who arent getting any asume that. I get a lot of lovin from my girlfriend and I still look at internet porn once a week.

To weasel, you shouldnt be ashamed of looking at the porn, and I also think that you letting your GF boss you around isnt good either. If you are not willing to stop looking at the porn I dont see how this relationship can last long. You will still look at the porn and she will catch you and it will be a constant fight. I truly dont see what GF's problems are with porn. I see it as an insecurity. She feels like you are looking at the porn because you are not "satisfied" with her. Explain to her that it has nothing to do with her, and she shouldnt feel insecure about it. Be willing to lose this relationship though. Either way, if you tell her you wont stop looking at it, she might break up with you. If you keep looking at it in secret and she finds out, she might break up with you. To be in a relatuionship where you hide things from your partner is like walking on eggshells everyday. It is not fun. Good luck. Next time you are searching, check out lonnie waters aka jenna heart, and terri summers if you havent already.

Disheveled DrFreeze · Post by **Disheveled DrFreeze** » Mon Feb 07, 2005 5:16 pm

if she is a virgin, and you aint getting any, she shouldnt make comments about you releaving your natural manly urges in other ways

and dont be ashamed of the porn, lots of people look at it, including me

abydos1000 · Post by **abydos1000** » Mon Feb 07, 2005 5:30 pm

Catch-22. If you love her enough, you will give uo the porn. If she loves you enough, she shouldn't force you to change your behavior in a case where no one is in physical danger. You are at opposite ends of the spectrum. So, if you love one another enough, then you have to find a common ground. Maybe there are certain kinds of porn that bother her more than others There is a difference between playboy and stuff that is just plain sick. Perhaps there can be a compromise of don't ask, don't tell. Has she given reasons why she doesn't like it? Specific ones? Have you done the same for your side? Does she romance novels by any chance? Those can be pretty steamy. Women often get more turned on by the verbal word and men by visualization. Our brains are wired like that (there are exceptions of course).

You are going to both need to meet in the middle somewhere, otherwise both of you will be walking on egg shells. That is no way to live.

I don't look at porn or really care for it, but I let people decide whatever on that one.

Post by **I.M. Weasel** » Mon Feb 07, 2005 5:32 pm

arrowhead wrote:
Roofus wrote:Usually when people are getting some, they lose interest in porn.
I dont mean to flame but usually people who arent getting any asume that. I get a lot of lovin from my girlfriend and I still look at internet porn once a week.

To weasel, you shouldnt be ashamed of looking at the porn, and I also think that you letting your GF boss you around isnt good either. If you are not willing to stop looking at the porn I dont see how this relationship can last long.

I don't wanna look at it everyday, but every once in awhile i get the urge.

arrowhead wrote:You will still look at the porn and she will catch you and it will be a constant fight. I truly dont see what GF's problems are with porn. I see it as an insecurity. She feels like you are looking at the porn because you are not "satisfied" with her. Explain to her that it has nothing to do with her, and she shouldnt feel insecure about it. Be willing to lose this relationship though. Either way, if you tell her you wont stop looking at it, she might break up with you. If you keep looking at it in secret and she finds out, she might break up with you. To be in a relatuionship where you hide things from your partner is like walking on eggshells everyday. It is not fun. Good luck. Next time you are searching, check out lonnie waters aka jenna heart, and terri summers if you havent already.

Yeah, damned if I do damned if I don't. Its more of a male nature to look at other girls, then girls looking at other guys, but if she looked at women pron, I would feel awkward. She is good in the bedroom, but we dont go all the way. ive changed a lot for her,stopped smoking weed & ciggs. i dunno. i love her and I wanna be with her.

Enki-14 · Post by **Enki-14** » Mon Feb 07, 2005 6:14 pm

I.M. Weasel wrote: ive changed a lot for her,stopped smoking weed & ciggs. i dunno. i love her and I wanna be with her.

It looks as though you have made some compromises for her and it sounds like she hasn't done that for you. You've made changes in your habits for her and you haven't mentioned anything about her. Either you haven't brought anything up, or she hasn't changed for you. If she has changed some, then disreguard the last 2 sentances. If not, you should consider the fact that she hasn't changed, the next time you feel guilty.